What Happened When I Stopped Drinking Alcohol Every Night

How do I wish to feel today?
What is one thing I can do to like myself today?
What can I give to others today?

About Meg DalyMeg Daly is an ICF licensed coach, blog writer, developer of the “Tranquility Talk” podcast, and founder of the Sober Tranquility 30 Day Reset for people ready to try out reviewing their relationship with alcohol. You can download her favorite “Tranquility Treats: 20 Things to Do Other Than Drink Alcohol” by clicking here.

My answer to # 2 was frequently …
” Drink more water.”.
” Start weightlifting.”.
” Let go of gluten.”.
The fact was the one real voice within was quietly and patiently stating day after day, ” Take a break from alcohol.”.
I simply wasnt prepared to listen.
A phone call eventually triggered an experiment in guts.
For ninety days I promised a pal I would join her on a alcohol reset. After I hung up that fateful Sunday, I went to the calendar to mark the ninetieth day. Instantly fear crept in with ideas like ” Youve attempted this before and it didnt work” and ” You will not even make it through tonight.”.
It was if I was whisked into something beyond my own understanding, because the next 120 days flew by. After day twenty-one I stopped counting. I no longer was ticking off the calendar to when I could lastly have a beverage.
Why was this time various? Because I looked at it as something I “got” to do rather than “had” to do. I viewed it as a gift instead of a clean.
What is on the other side of a toxic relationship with alcohol?
Ive seen sunrises by candlelight, baked banana bread before bed, and gotten more done by 8am than I ever did after 5pm.
Ive ended up a Netflix show without going to sleep … and in fact remembered what I watched.
Ive released twenty pounds.
I wake up hydrated.
My skin seems to have actually reversed in time a la Benjamin Button.
The list goes on and on.
The other day my mother offered me a compliment that made me cry … in an excellent way.
She said, “You understand, its like your skin, your hair … you appear like you utilized to look when you were younger.”.
For so long I was using wine to lower the undesirable feelings of stress and anxiety and overwhelm. While I believed I was “alleviating,” I was actually making myself edgy!
Nowadays, I plan my fun based on how I want to feel the next early morning. What Ive found is that taking a break from delighted hour can actually transform not just the other twenty-tour hours of your day, however your life also.
When you have enough energy and vitality to welcome the day, you begin to find little miracles everywhere in the kinds of simple enjoyments, a present conversation with a friend, or a minute that may have sent you into a tailspin … however now you breathe through it with perseverance and grace.
People frequently ask me, “Do you ever have a glass of red wine … ever?”.
Probably every 2 weeks approximately if I am being social (and socially distancing) with family or friends. Do I enjoy it? Yes and no. The few times I have had a glass or two it no longer held any energy for me. Its now a “take it or leave it” kind of thing.
Its as if small amounts moves you toward abstinence.
Why? Since I am no longer ready to sacrifice how great I feel the next early morning for alcohol.
I also enjoy the reduction of stress and anxiety! Why would I wish to return to something that was creating the precise experience that was causing me to emotionally suffer?
Yes, there are people who can drink day-to-day and function fine, and there are those who cant consume at all. And after that there are people like me who understand alcohol isnt the kind of good friend they want to hang out with every day however perhaps in very little dosages every now and then.
Drinking is marketed as attractive, elegant, and unifying.
Is slurring your words sexy? Is stumbling out of a restaurant classy? Is not remembering the discussion you had with a pal unifying?
The truth for me was alcohol made me feel drained pipes, bad-tempered, and even a wee bit upset. How you feel is developing your day and in essence your life. If you feel messy and haphazard waking up you are producing a cluttered and haphazard day..
I utilized to get up and run to the cooking area. Awaiting me was the one thing that would be choosing if I require to beat myself up or pat myself on the back. Like the scale, the opened bottle of red wine oftentimes identified if I was ” great” or ” bad” the previous day.
Only a one-fourth of the bottle left? Bad woman!
Three-quarters left? Good girl!
So much time, energy, and thinking taken into the act of drinking!
In the end, bedtime is the very best of all.
Four hours of alcohol-free sleep is WAY more invigorating than nine hours of alcohol-infused sleep. Waking up feeling your body buzzing (in a great way!) is the very best high of all.
If your inner guide is asking for a break, possibly its time to listen.
Sweet dreams.

“First you take a drink, then the beverage takes a drink, then the drink takes you.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald
I enjoy Sophia Loren. Theres a photo of her in my house looking eternally youthful and revitalized. From what Ive been informed its due to her 9 to 10 hours of sleep each night.
I see someone who relishes in the delights of life when I look at this photo. Food, laughter, sex, work, motherhood, and self-care. Not long ago I gazed at that picture thinking, “How could I admire somebody a lot and live my life in such a various way from hers?”
Have you heard of the halo effect? Its when you do the things you understand are best for your body, mind, and spirit, and in doing so you start to exude this powerfully stunning and enticing energy others cant get enough of. I now recognize my relationship with the everyday habit of alcohol was in fact lessening the glow of my halo. It was basically stealing my happiness, time, money, looks, well-being, and especially my rest.
Who knew that for so long my full nights sleep was being hijacked by alcohol!
Puffy face, dark circles, dry mouth, red eyes, weight gain, and not to mention the headache, raised heart beat, stress and anxiety … these are just a few of the lovely adverse effects I experienced with overindulging in the bottle.
In trying to minimize overwhelm I inadvertently was fueling it through cut off sleep and the fuzzy sensation the following day..
Do I believe alcohol is bad or that drinking is off limits? No.
I do know for myself that the day-to-day 2, sometimes 3 glasses of red wine took a toll. It took any kind of focus and motivation the next day to follow through on all the things I said I would accomplish the night prior to basking in the embrace of my main capture Mr. P (Pinot Noir that is.).
My relationship with alcohol was taking my ability to step into the life I declared to desire.
I wished to release weight.
I wanted to make more money.
I desired to compose my book.
Up until I launched the hold Mr. P had on me, I knew deep down I would never come close to achieving any of those dreams.
Every morning I awaken and ask myself 3 things:.

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It was if I was blended into something beyond my own comprehension, because the next 120 days flew by. After day twenty-one I stopped counting. I no longer was ticking off the calendar to when I might lastly have a beverage. Its now a “take it or leave it” kind of thing.
How you feel is developing your day and in essence your life.

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